So today I wanted to have a pep-talk with you, mom to mom. If you are confused on how to be a mom, especially in these modern times of national and world unrest, you aren’t alone. How to raise children to be successful, good-natured, loving, responsible individuals is difficult.
If you wake up wondering what you are going to make for breakfast, what are you going to do with your kids all day, or if you don’t even want to get out of bed because they are already awake, you aren’t alone. These are things that every mom goes through. These are thoughts every mom has.
How Not to Raise Children
We tend to think that we aren’t being a good mom or we don’t know how to be a mom based on what we think or feel. I will tell you this is NOT how to raise children! You’ll never know if you do that.
Sometimes it’s a comparison to the appearances of other moms on Instagram or Facebook. We think, “Hey they are real moms posting about their lives and it looks so good!” “I must not be doing something right. Maybe I need to be more like her.”
No! You don’t have to be more like her! I’ve talked many times about this but I know it’s still in your head. God made you to be the mom of that child, or those children. You don’t have to try to be a good mom!
Your personality is just right to be that kid’s mom! You don’t have to change to be like someone else you think is doing it better.
Modern Obstacles to Raising Children
Trust me, seeing the backstage of social media influencers and mom bloggers, we do not have our acts together either. Photoshopped pictures, with sometimes hours of setup and planning.
You don’t see what’s right outside the view of the lense. Sometimes it’s a pile of laundry or a sink of dishes while we send something encouraging and beautiful to you.
Raising children in today’s world is definitely not what it was 10, 20, or 30 years ago. So, stop trying to be your mom. I have encountered numerous moms and grandmoms who pity us ^_^ raising kids today is so different.
We have the challenges of screens and so many social agendas that it seems the government just propagates instead of eliminates.
How to Raise Children
Don’t be so hard on yourself. Instead, get a plan. Seek the Lord. I know mornings might not work, evenings might not work. But pray to Him in the bathroom, in the car, in your bed, in a closet. Pray for 1 minute. Send the kids outside if that’s an option and pray.
Ask God to give you a plan for how to parent, how to parent today. Ask Him for clarity on who you are in Him! And how He is using motherhood to shape you and your kids.
Don’t stress on the fancy meals or even the hum-drum ones. Don’t worry if you didn’t get all of the laundry done. If you aren’t sure where to start, as your husband what are his top 3 priorities for you and then try to complete those.
The children will get older and begin to help, but in the meanwhile don’t beat yourself up thinking that you just don’t know how to do this thing. None of us do, we can only share insights and successes. Then you can analyze if that will work for you. And that’s how to raise children.
