Our urban-living didn’t stop her from having spotless floors, shining silver, polished wood, clean bathrooms and few dishes on a daily basis.
Of course, this part was quite different from my upbringing because one thing my mom did not do much of was cooking. My dad was the cook. As mom, I cook all the time due to my families health issues.
Also, my mom worked outside the home. So when my husband and I decided I’d stay home, I thought I would be able to accomplish all that my mom did without a blink.
Ha.
The reality: I had different priorities, different issues, and a plain ol’ different lifestyle than my mom did back in the 80s and 90s.
I spent years comparing my housekeeping, and my motherhood journey, to that of my mom’s. Those were sad years. Years y’all while I asked, why does my house get so messy?
Check out the book Lies Moms Believe by Rebekah Hargraves
So much in motherhood is a mind game.
Don’t stay in the traps that we, and the culture, has created.
We cannot change how others view us, but we can change how we view ourselves. We can change how much we allow the Lord to work in those, instead of us trying to force someone to give us patience, understanding and grace.
Know that your mom’s house may have not been messy, but there are many other factors that you may not have been aware of, like:
- Maybe her house was a mess when you were very small but over time she learned what steps to take
- Maybe she isn’t admitting to you how difficult it was to keep up with everything
- Maybe she didn’t spend quality time with you or your siblings, the same quality time you put priority on in your family
- Maybe her mother ingrained in her a rhythm, a routine, so she was able to keep up after children came along (but for whatever reason she didn’t pass this along to you)
I don’t know your mom, and you can’t fully understand her either. Regardless of what allowed her to keep a clean house (or anyone else you may idolize), your house is not your mom’s house.
You are not your mother. You have your own set of circumstances that effect how you keep house.
Here are 3 reasons Why Your House Gets So Messy
#1 – Continual procrastination
This is a big problem. We get distracted due to children or events and then put it off some more with, “I’ll just catch up tomorrow”.
Y’all today is the day! You never know what may happen tomorrow. At least do some of it, right now. Don’t put off tomorrow what can be done today.
#2 – Laziness in motherhood
This is beyond the, I meant to but things happened. Laziness is just that, instead of doing what you should you are simply sitting down on the job. Reading, watching movies, doing your hair, or going out so much that you don’t have time to get your house in order.Some of this is fine, when scheduled and in moderation but be careful. This will cause a growing problem in your motherhood journey. Nip it in the bud (a little springtime humor).
#3 – Lack of routine and/or tools for accomplishing those everyday tasks
This is where I want to point out that it’s not just mind over matter. We need tools, resources and products to properly steward our homes.
We have to have a guide of some type and if you are like me and didn’t get that consistent training growing up, then you need to get it now!
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Yes! I would get nothing accomplished if it wasn’t for my routine. What I do in the morning sets my tone for the whole day so I make sure to do my routine every morning!
Lack of routine is so spot on! It’s been a life changer to unload the dishwasher and put a load of laundry in the wash first thing every morning!
Each of us has to recognize our own routines and priorities! Organization is pretty important to me–so even if it’s a bit dusty, my house is organized! 🙂 Of course, it helps that our baby is a bit too small to make messes of his own yet, I know things will change with time! 🙂
Very true. There are a few places in my home where I have very strong routines and they work well. Other’s I need to incorporate better routines. And of course…we have too much stuff! LOl
I love number 3 combined with 1! For me, sticking to a routine is key! What I do, I make my own cleaner so I make sure that I have a spray bottle of all purpose cleaner and a microfiber cloth in every room so that if something needs a quick clean, I can do it while I’m in the room and thinking about it. I mean, it would need to be the ideal time to do it, but it creates less fuss on the designated cleaning day.
So so true! I am a big believer in having a routine to help keep up with the housework! And thanks so much for being honest and pointing out that some of us are just plain lazy. 🙂
#2… So much #2. Although my kids are 3 and 1 1/2 so the little time I do have, I try to balance it between the house, myself and spending quality time with hubby.