Just because you have a baby and maybe you are married, have a house or job… just because some women may have all of this that does not mean that she is prepared. While Motherhood Creation is the creation of a new part of you, a revelation of a deeper you pressed out by the circumstances of providing for a new human being, a butterfly mom is the type of mom that just can’t keep steady in that journey.
Let me tell you this idea has been rising in me but a discussion I had with my husband really is where this post came from. Because my husband works 2nd shift and I try to be in bed at a decent time, we tend to talk early mornings. I mean sometimes before 6 am! It’s a killer but this is the season of life we are in so we can talk without constant interruptions. Well, I woke up this morning our conversation shifted into the struggles we are dealing with and, well, mine in particular.
I realized that I deal with many things as a mom that isn’t because I am a mom. It is because of my own mindset and hang-ups in life. So many of these I was just completely blinded to because there weren’t the pressures upon me when I was younger and wasn’t a mom yet. I was carefree in a lot of ways, and definitely more joyful.
Was that you too?
Then as children came along life just really started to feel restricting. I had a lot more duties and the have-to started to outweigh the if-you-want-tos.
Only recently I realize that my habits, priorities and routines for all my non-mom years have come to put a heaviness on my mom years.
Things like
- Putting off doing laundry, or finishing laundry, on a regular basis
- Not getting into a morning and evening routine
- Putting most of my time into pleasure-pursuits
- Jumping ship on any project, job or commitment whenever it interrupted my pleasure-pursuits
I mean all of these things were the regular mode of operation for me. It sounds like I was a total bum or a complete slacker but I wasn’t. I had a nice job, clothes, money, a new car, hobbies, faith and church but my spirit was not steady, diligent, hard-working.
In a sense I was a nicely dressed slacker that could hold down a job. Yet I wasn’t truly hard-working. I don’t mean on a job or in relationships. But in being consistent, in moving up in life, in caring for something or someone outside of yourself which means sacrifice.
If you are like me, all you have been used to is fluttering from one idea to the next, from one activity or pursuit to another. So now the pressure comes and what do you do? You cave or you rave, you don’t know how to brave. But you must, for this baby, this child.
You struggle to learn all the things you never cared about nor took time to investigate. You fall off the journey, you get back on. You think you are walking the path of servanthood and then you realize you could go deeper and to grow you really need to grow. Not just deeper but more steady. If this sounds like you, you are a butterfly mom.
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