Being alone and feeling hopeless, in your situation can all but crush you. Moms need hope, but where do you find hope?
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Where do you look when you have looked at every possible option? How do you continue pushing through when you are broken? In this post, I will give you encouragement, strength, and inspiration. But I want you to know something first.
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When I talk to moms in need of hope I am not talking out of my bee-hind. I’m not passing judgment or giving some college prepared speech from up high.
I’m talking to myself just as well about the experiences I have had and still encounter. I’m talking about the words I have said and thought, but now I refuse to let them dictate my path.
I also need hope, being a mom. I want you to know that this is me too, my life. My life that is cluttered with a lack of finances, allergies, and family mental health issues. My life of being a butterfly mom has lead me many times to feeling hopeless. I know what it is like being a mom in need of hope and vision.
You want something bigger than what you can see. Maybe you don’t even know what that something is.
That doesn’t mean this the only reality for your life.
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Yes, we’ve looked and searched, we are tired and faint, we are desperate for change. However, you must believe there is hope for mom, hope for this motherhood journey. Don’t allow yourself to only wallow in your sense of pity. Give yourself some credit – see the strides you have already made.
Something good is happening in your life, don’t fight against it.
We have to allow ourselves to be remade, like a butterfly. It’s time to step up and take the lead in life, instead of allowing life to just happen to us.
How?
Where, why and when?!
At some point, maturity will happen to you as it has to me. You will get sick and tired of being sick and tired and you will turn to Him, our Maker, and allow HIM to remake you. This is the moment of possibility, the perfect point of union between gasping for air and being that Olympic swimmer.
You are no longer drowning in an ocean of tears.
You are using that ocean to swim and make distance between your hopeless butterfly self and your hopeful motherhood journey.
But I didn’t answer your questions about how, where, why and when so I will now.
Mental maturity for this journey is a slow process but it can happen faster if you don’t give up
You must not turn aside, for then you would go after futile things which can not profit or deliver, because they are futile. 1 Samuel 12:21
When?
Everyone’s journey calls for different paths. I cannot tell you your ‘when’ but I can tell you, if you give up you won’t ever get there. Keep yourself motivated with song, scripture, taking breaks from your kids or family, and seeking support of those who are at the goal, near the goal you have for yourself.
Who would that be? Again, depends on where you are in your motherhood journey. That could be moms of college kids, older or mature Christian women, or perhaps someone who is at the stage in their career that you’d like to achieve. Maybe it’s an older woman who has dealt with divorce and had a successful remarriage.
Being around those who have been successful will get you that success mindset and allow you to stop feeling hopeless. Instead, you will feel empowered to succeed.
Why?
Why do you have to be remade? This really shouldn’t even be a question if you are a butterfly mom – you already know it. But I will tell you that God ultimately has a plan for you, and all of us, to become more and more like Him. We have to be less about ourselves in order to help anyone else.
For I know what I have planned for you,’ says the Lord. ‘I have plans to prosper you, not to harm you. I have plans to give you a future filled with hope. Jeremiah 29:11
Where?
Where will you start being remade and take lead of your life? Right where you are. Right where you are you can bloom and you will if you know…
How?
We end where we began. All your how’s are answered at God’s table. Open up the Bible for it is the food that will nourish your mind and your soul. If we can simply follow this one scripture you’ll find the hope you need to go the next step:
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33
Becoming mom is truly about us moms learning to give of ourselves. Sometimes we feel hopeless because we just feel so alone and misunderstood, used and not replenished.
Yes you may be used and not replenished, but alone and misunderstood, that’s a lie!
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We are understood by our Creator God. He knows that living for Him is difficult, that giving up our wants is hard. Yet if we would just see the joy in doing so He promises to remake us and provide for us all the joys that we are seeking so hard.
You can’t act within yourself and think you’ll have all the connections you desire outside of yourself. Give up feeling hopeless, come out of yourself and be remade!
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In my next post, we’ll look at our ultimate example of thinking outside of ourselves in order to gain ourselves.
I’m sure many Christian moms will find that hope they’re looking for after reading this post.
Thank you for writing this! I’m sure it would be a source of strength to a struggling Mom in need of encouragement. You are so right that God’s Word is the source life; the nourishment our soul needs. When life becomes overwhelming so often I try to rely on myself, or run to others first, instead of seeking out my Heavenly Father. I have never regretted opening His Word and hearing His truths.
I have a friend who is really down on herself right now and she has chosen to turn to God to help her stay positive and strong. Right now her hope is coming from a song that she keeps hearing when her thoughts turn negative. She swears it is her sign from God, because it plays just when she needs it. The song that is bringing her hope is You Say, by Lauren Daigle. Thank you for your post, women everywhere need this kind of encouragement and community.
This is very nice. Thank you for sharing.
The Bible verse at the end, Matthew 6:33, is so powerful. It’s such a good reminder and so important for us to live our lives following His word. Absolutely wonderfully written, Rose.